“Detachment is not that you should own nothing. But that nothing should own you.”
– Ali ibn Abi Talib
Our quote this week is from Muslim Imam Ali ibn Abi Talib, on detachment.
Detachment is a funny kind of term because it can conjure up thoughts of distance and separation, even lack of concern for someone or something. In reality though, detachment is the only way we can experience real freedom.
Have you ever felt owned by something, or someone? Like your job, or something you’ve bought, or even a partner or spouse? Maybe you still feel that way.
When we have an unhealthy attachment to something it has control over us. Money is a great example. How far would you go to make sure you have money coming to you? Most of us aren’t so attached that we would do something illegal, but attached enough that it can create stress.
Money and possessions are one thing, but emotional attachment can be far more disruptive. When we have a need for approval from others, for validation, popularity or acceptance we live and die based on their opinion of us. Being able to be who we are, and do what we will do without needing to have others approve or see us in a certain light is the ultimate freedom.
Letting go of the ego and accepting ourselves as we are and our life as it is, we can act from the heart, rather than acting for an outcome. When we are acting for an outcome, we can never truly be free as we will always be attached to the outcome.
When we are able to do what we do, with love, and be ok with whatever result we get, we are free.
When we have enough self-belief to know we can cope, whatever the outcome, we are free.
Not sure where to start? This article from Medium is full of helpful advice, much more than I can fit in this short message! And if you haven’t claimed your free coaching session, that might also be a great jump off point. 🙂
See you next week!
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